My last post made for a very interesting week for me. I wrote about why I won’t be watching 50 Shades of Grey, and appealed to all women to reconsider watching it this weekend. Since I published it, I’ve had conversations all week long both online and off with women who have either defended the position I took or defended the movie.
Women, I’m saddened. When I wrote the post on Monday, I confess I was a bit angry. I was angry with the thought that our girls, our young girls, are going to grow up thinking this kind of “love” is normal. That we’re just sitting by while society tells us BDSM and abusive relationships are normal and even sexy. I was disgusted.
But now, I’m just deeply saddened.
I’m saddened that our marriages and relationships are broken.
I’m saddened that we think erotic films will fix them.
I’m saddened that pornography is so prevalent that those who don’t view it regularly are in the minority.
I’m saddened that I have already had to talk to my 5 year old about porn. Because it’s everywhere.
I’m saddened that we look at Christian Grey as an example of a real man.
I’m saddened that 1 in 4 women will be a victim of domestic violence.
I’m saddened that our feminism has brought us here. We’ve almost come full circle. We told our men they couldn’t dominate us, we are equal. And now we’re telling them it’s okay to dominate us, it’s a turn on. A group called Fight the New Drug did a study which concluded that up to 88% of the most popular porn contains violence against women. That should disturb us. This is what our kids will view by the time they’re 8.
This breaks my heart.
Ladies, let’s take sex back.
Let’s stop romanticizing violence and abuse.
Let’s stop giving money to the machine that perpetuates this garbage.
Stop reading these books. Stop watching these movies. Let’s teach our kids what real love looks like. It’s messy and hard and not always beautiful. But it’s selfless. And it gives life.
Here are a couple articles that I found interesting this week. The co-stars of 50 Shades of Grey were even disgusted by the movie they made. Read about it here.
And this great article by Jonathan Van Maren which starts out, “It’s pretty depressing when you realize that, in 2014, many people seem to think that destruction of human dignity is a small price to pay for an orgasm.” That’s a great opening line.
And finally, Lisa Wilkinson, co-host of Channel 9’s Today Show gives her review of the movie.
I won’t be seeing the movie this weekend. I will be loving on my husband. Happy Valentine’s Day.